I'm glad to say that around here most people are too bewildered by my parenting choices to criticize, that last frame is repeated over and over. I'm stealing and sharing, thanks!
the one I don't see on there that I have heard many times is that I spoiled my kids by doing these attachment type parenting things. I guess it is viewed as bad if your child wants you and not someone else :P
The only other criticism that I heard that I don't see here is "Feeding on demand like that you are feeding her WAY too much." oh and "she doesn't need to nurse any more you are doing it for you now." But I heard that last frame repeatedly!!!!!
I love this! my son nursed every 2 hours at night until he was 18 months, held him all day when he was little - he learned to walk at 9 months even though people said he never would. AP is what one should naturally do & there is nothign wrong with it. I am going to repost this one!
This cartoon is very similar to my own life. I have tons of people telling me the "right" way to take care of my son, (most of which involves neglecting his needs,) yet when I go out in public, my son is so happy that complete strangers come up and comment about how happy and content he is!
I have practiced most of the principals of attachment parenting naturally from the beginning and then found out what it was called. Except I don't have a happy baby when it comes to strangers or even relatives. She gives them the stare down and does not like to go to anyone new. She has done this since 6 months and is now 14 months. In part it's her personality, but in part I think it's because she is soooo attached to me. I work from home but had to go in to work part-time for 3 weeks (my husbands business needed help) when she was 10 months, so I've left her with great grandma. She has hated that and now wants nothing to do with grandma, which breaks my heart.
EllaBellaBlues - that is normal for a securely attached baby, it is a protective mechanism when a baby still cannot understand the world, her place in it, or how to protect herself apart from mom - and she will grow out of it. By the time she is 3 she will love Grandma and going to do things on her own. :)
EllaBellaBlues - My oldest was the same. If I went anywhere that he couldn't see me, he would shriek until I came back. He went through a very anti-grandma phase, but it passed. He's five now and a social butterfly. He talks to strangers passing by in stores, he kisses me goodbye and runs off to school with no tears. When I pick him up is always happy to see me. I think because of the way I treated him as a fussy baby cemented the knowledge that he can trust me and I will always be available if he needs me.
The best compliment I ever received was a stranger who came up to me at the airport and said "don't pay attention to anything anyone says, she is the happiest baby I have ever seen so you are doing everything right". I thought that was so sweet. People usually comment that she is happy, but I never received any credit for it before. People normally seem to think it is pure luck!
My daughter was the same way - completely horrified of other people as a baby. My family and in-laws gave me a hard time about it and told me it was my fault because of my parenting.
Turns out - they were right! But not in the way they thought. My baby had a HEALTHY attachment to me. She wanted me and no one else - THE WAY IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE. She was just doing what she was supposed to. Just because a baby is outgoing, doesn't mean it's because you parented them the "right" way.
Now my daughter is three and she loves other people like you've never seen. She thinks every total stranger is her best-friend-forever and when someone makes the mistake of even glancing at her in the checkout line at the grocery store, they're stuck chatting her up for the next five minutes. She'd leave me in a heartbeat to make friends with some random person.
She ended up being a friendly, happy, outgoing kid with tons of love, spirit and personality. She's definitely a go-getter.
I've lost friends over my parenting style - but nothing feels more "right" to me than attachment parenting (I also didn't know it was called this until I started getting opposition) - the funny thing is that the people it bothered were the people who were upset that my son did not want them. There is a reason that mothers are equiped with the feeding mechanism for their babies - close frequent contact is natural and beautiful - and my son is certainly happier and healthier because of it. =)
I'm glad to say that around here most people are too bewildered by my parenting choices to criticize, that last frame is repeated over and over. I'm stealing and sharing, thanks!
ReplyDeletethe one I don't see on there that I have heard many times is that I spoiled my kids by doing these attachment type parenting things. I guess it is viewed as bad if your child wants you and not someone else :P
ReplyDeleteThe only other criticism that
ReplyDeleteI heard that I don't see here is "Feeding on demand like that you are feeding her WAY too much." oh and "she doesn't need to nurse any more you are doing it for you now." But I heard that last frame repeatedly!!!!!
hahaha the last part is like a script I swear....
ReplyDeletethanks for posting this i had to share it
ReplyDeleteFantastic strip! I hope you don't mind me sharing it. So true!
ReplyDeleteI love this! my son nursed every 2 hours at night until he was 18 months, held him all day when he was little - he learned to walk at 9 months even though people said he never would. AP is what one should naturally do & there is nothign wrong with it. I am going to repost this one!
ReplyDeleteThis cartoon is very similar to my own life. I have tons of people telling me the "right" way to take care of my son, (most of which involves neglecting his needs,) yet when I go out in public, my son is so happy that complete strangers come up and comment about how happy and content he is!
ReplyDeleteI have practiced most of the principals of attachment parenting naturally from the beginning and then found out what it was called. Except I don't have a happy baby when it comes to strangers or even relatives. She gives them the stare down and does not like to go to anyone new. She has done this since 6 months and is now 14 months. In part it's her personality, but in part I think it's because she is soooo attached to me. I work from home but had to go in to work part-time for 3 weeks (my husbands business needed help) when she was 10 months, so I've left her with great grandma. She has hated that and now wants nothing to do with grandma, which breaks my heart.
ReplyDeleteEllaBellaBlues - that is normal for a securely attached baby, it is a protective mechanism when a baby still cannot understand the world, her place in it, or how to protect herself apart from mom - and she will grow out of it. By the time she is 3 she will love Grandma and going to do things on her own. :)
ReplyDeleteEllaBellaBlues - My oldest was the same. If I went anywhere that he couldn't see me, he would shriek until I came back. He went through a very anti-grandma phase, but it passed. He's five now and a social butterfly. He talks to strangers passing by in stores, he kisses me goodbye and runs off to school with no tears. When I pick him up is always happy to see me. I think because of the way I treated him as a fussy baby cemented the knowledge that he can trust me and I will always be available if he needs me.
ReplyDeleteThe best compliment I ever received was a stranger who came up to me at the airport and said "don't pay attention to anything anyone says, she is the happiest baby I have ever seen so you are doing everything right". I thought that was so sweet. People usually comment that she is happy, but I never received any credit for it before. People normally seem to think it is pure luck!
ReplyDeletemy mum loves to compliment me on my girls which is nice but she can't work out what I'm doing right :p It must be something..
ReplyDeleteMy daughter was the same way - completely horrified of other people as a baby. My family and in-laws gave me a hard time about it and told me it was my fault because of my parenting.
ReplyDeleteTurns out - they were right! But not in the way they thought. My baby had a HEALTHY attachment to me. She wanted me and no one else - THE WAY IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE. She was just doing what she was supposed to. Just because a baby is outgoing, doesn't mean it's because you parented them the "right" way.
Now my daughter is three and she loves other people like you've never seen. She thinks every total stranger is her best-friend-forever and when someone makes the mistake of even glancing at her in the checkout line at the grocery store, they're stuck chatting her up for the next five minutes. She'd leave me in a heartbeat to make friends with some random person.
She ended up being a friendly, happy, outgoing kid with tons of love, spirit and personality. She's definitely a go-getter.
I've lost friends over my parenting style - but nothing feels more "right" to me than attachment parenting (I also didn't know it was called this until I started getting opposition) - the funny thing is that the people it bothered were the people who were upset that my son did not want them. There is a reason that mothers are equiped with the feeding mechanism for their babies - close frequent contact is natural and beautiful - and my son is certainly happier and healthier because of it. =)
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